It’s a Rough and Bumpy Road on the Way to Easy Street

             What a childhood I had, why, when I took my first step, my old man tripped me!         Rodney Dangerfield

A recent article cites evidence that billionaires really are smarter than the most of us.

Ever wonder why?

Is it because they have more patience?  Is it because they are focused?  Do they work harder?  Do they work smarter than most of us?

I don’t know.  And, I’m certainly no billionaire.

Realistically, I want more out of life than where I am at this moment and I’m sure that same aspiration applies to you.

And, that leads to the point of this piece.

Do you ever have those times where everything turns to crap.  I’m sure you have.

On a 103 degree LA day, the car air conditioner goes out on my way to pick up my daughter and my 3 month old Grandson, the car wheels are shaking, the sensors are giving faulty readings showing that the car needs oil and the engine needs work.

Oh, and the brake lights don’t work.  And, to break up the monotony, I’m in the midst of 2 IRS audits, I need a new computer and the printer just stopped working and my stomach has been bothering me for 7 months and none of the specialists seem to know why.

I asked for a second opinion and the doctor said…yeah, and you’re ugly too!

On the belly issue, I don’t have gender identity issues, so I know I’m not pregnant,  but I always wore ‘hand-me-downs”…………………………but, my sister has such great taste!

I’m not going into lurid details about my set of woes, because, let’s face it, you’ve got your own set of challenges, so who cares.

It’s like, take care of it and deal with it.

I mention this to make a point:  Either bitch and moan about my string of “issues”, feel sorry for myself and rack up  points at the nearest meeting of the LSBA.

Ever hear of it?  It’s a very special club.  LSBA stands for  “The Life Sucks Benevolent Alliance.”   Like I said, it’s a very special club.

Sidebar-Unfortunately, these organizations don’t seem to last all that long.   Extensive research shows the top two reasons are:

1).  There’s always unexpected misfortunes and calamities stopping  members from ever showing up for meetings.


2).  Because members of The Life Sucks Benevolent Alliance have so many
“issues”,  there’s never have enough money to cover the cost of dues.

Now, I’m not picking on people who have really had it rough.

In fact, those who have truly experienced tough times, really tough times, are usually more grateful than the rest of us.

I’m a big proponent of the Law of Attraction.  I really believe what the mind can conceive the mind can achieve.

On the other hand, the conceive/achieve formula can all turn out to be the exact opposite of our expectations. You see, what the mind can conceive, the mind can achieve but, it can also be….that the mind can deceive.

You’re only fooling yourself if you don’t really believe in what you’re doing, what you’re saying and how you’re acting.

You’re not fooling anyone especially yourself.  So, stop the nonsense.  This ain’t junior high and you’re over the age of 50.  Hello.

Most of us want a better life.  Life is rough and, as much as I’d like to ignore that, the truth is it’s getting rougher every day.

So, what do you do?  What can you do?

Recently I read where meditation actually increases brain function. Hey, we all want to take it easy.  Meditation sounds great.

And, I’m not being patronizing.  The problem is the amount of time it takes to relax, get into a meditative state and then actually let yourself go.  It seems the times you need it most are usually the times when we’re experiencing the highest amount of stress.

Unfortunately, in real life, there really are no time-outs or commercial breaks

Sure you need it. I need it. But, taking your eye off the prize can put you even further behind the 8 ball.

When you’re under the gun, it just doesn’t seem right to stop.  It breaks the rhythm of what you’re doing at that moment.

I’m not knocking meditation.  I know it works….when I’ve got the time to meditate.  That’s my bad.

Right now, I don’t do as much as I should and I know I need to meditate..

On the other hand, maybe this is the price of doing business.

Let me explain.  Earlier I talked about billionaires being smarter than the rest of us.  Is it because they put so much extra effort into what they’re doing?  Is it because they are better able to put aside life’s challenges and go right through the “incidental” things that stop and impede most of us from completing the things that are so essential to success?

Are they working with ease?  Meanwhile, we have our nose to the grindstone, always focused and goal oriented

I don’t know.

But, let me throw this out at you.  And, I’m really thinking about this:  We all want more.  We dream what it would be like with more of…whatever we want more of?

But, are we willing to pay the price for the prize of success and greater happiness?

Here’s what I’m talking about.  We all bitch and moan.  That’s part of life. But, let me run this by you.  If you can’t handle the problems, the troubles and the tribulations you’re facing right now, do you really think you’ll be able to handle even more pressure and problems that always seem to go together with each step up, as you’re on the way to greater fulfillment?

Now, you’re probably saying, “duh.”  OK.  Hey, we don’t all learn life’s lessons at the same time or the same way.

I admit it.  I’m Exhibit A.

Ever notice when you hit some “Motherlode of Success” that almost, out of nowhere, bills,  unexpected expenses, charges, payments, taxes and fees seem to appear out of nowhere. It’s like your good fortune comes with a down payment of additional negative incidentals.

And you say to yourself, “What the heck is all this?  Haven’t I paid enough dues”?

And, you’re right.  You really have.  But, let’s get real.

As you climb the success ladder, you have to pay an entry fee.  It’s like the government.  Sure, you’ve paid your taxes, but now you’ve got to pay “fees.”

If you’re not willing to pay those fees, then you’re not ready to take the next step to success.

We all think, if only.  If only what?  Success comes with a price.

If you’re not willing to pay those dues, fees, etc. then stay where you are.

And, here’s something else to consider-Gratitude.  Be grateful for what you have right now.Trust me on this.  No matter how bad things might be for you right now, if you can’t find anything to be grateful for, then you’re not ready to take the next steps up.

Life only gives you what you can handle.  And, if you can’t handle what you have right now, you’ll never get beyond where you are right now.

When you think of life that way, it’s enough to make you rethink your pathway to greater happiness and success.

So, let me ask you, what do you really want?  Is it money?  Is it happiness?  Is it achievement?  What is your goal?

Whatever it is, you have to be ready to step up and pay the price.

You can’t put aspirations on a debit or credit card.

Be grateful for what you have at this moment.  It makes it so much easier.  And, you might find out that the next steps up become so much easier.

And, let’s try some meditation.

Otherwise, you might find out that it really is a rough and bumpy road on the way to Easy Street.