Getting Out of Going in Circles

“I used to run in circles going nowhere fast.”  Keith Urban, Singer

Ever feel like you’re in a rut; like you can’t seem to get out of…getting out of your own way?

If that means anything to you, if it somehow resonates, then welcome!  Just know that you’re not alone.  You’ve got company.  We are legion.  I’ve been there many times.  At times it actually seems like I’ve taken permanent “rut” residence.  Yeah, I’ve been there more times than I care to admit.

But, after a while, life in “rut ville”  gets to be like a broken record; if anyone remembers records at all.  You get stuck on stuck.

That reminds me.  Now, I’m getting off the subject, but ever notice that even with all of today’s advanced audio technology, woofer, amp, pre-amp, speaker, left-handed gamble-sprocket, what comes out of all of it usually sounds so unbelievably tinny.

I’m a Radio guy.  Sound has played a very important  part of my life.   For me, nothing compares to the warmth that comes from old fashioned vinyl disc.

……….As you can tell, I’m quite susceptible to distraction.  For me, a gentle wind could easily be the culprit that causes the premature demise of a thought seeking meaning and purpose while in the meat of mid sentence.

………….I beg of you, don’t let this happen to you.

I try and work out most every day.  Like I said, I try.  Anyway, the other day, as I was getting ready to head  over to the gym, and I just said, “screw it.”

I was so sick and tired of the same old work out going to the gym, getting on the treadmill, jogging a few miles, doing some machines; doing the same workout that I’ve done a thousand times or more.

So, I said the hell with it and headed outside to jog around the neighborhood.  I’m lucky in that I live near the Pacific, so that’s literally a day at the beach.

I was feeling good, so I kept on jogging, slowing down, do some fast walking, jogging a little bit more, when all of a sudden, I realized I was about 6 miles from home.

Wow! Good for me, right?  Wrong!  Now, I’ve got to head back.  6 long miles.

But, it got me thinking.  It’s so much easier to keep on going.  So why stop. But, we look back and worry…how am I going to get back?

Now, don’t get me wrong, of course I want to get back home.  I’ve got a good life, a great wife who puts up with me and deserves her just due and will be rewarded handsomely in the great beyond.  I’ve got 2 grown daughters who have their Dad wrapped around their fingers and an absolutely adorable grandson.

But, that’s not what I’m talking about.

I’m talking about choice.  What do you want to do?

Do you want to keep on going until you attain a goal, or would you be happier and feel more secure going around in a circle?

Going around in a circle all day long…you’ll wind up dizzy but you’ll definitely get to know the lay of the land.  And, it’s secure.  You know eventually you’ll wind up back where you started.

Is that what you want?  Do you want to keep going in circles.  You don’t achieve much.  It’s not a great conversation starter.

Let’s get real.  Going in circles means there is no room for growth.  It’s a life that’s similar to Bill Murray in “Groundhog Day.”

There is no creation.  Come to think of it, there’s not even any re-creation.  You can’t replicate creation.  It’s one of a kind.

Even clones aren’t exact replications.

Everything outside of an original becomes what it is; second best or worse.

Setting out on your own and losing sight of home base can be unsettling.  It’s a gamble.  There’s no guarantees.

Without getting political, think about Greece and Spain. Beautiful countries.  But, so many people opted for an existence based on going in circles.  They got what they got and got by.  They weren’t rich.  They weren’t poor.  They got by.

Until something happened and that “sure thing”, that “going in circles” style of life went bye bye.

Somebody or some thing upset the circle of security.

And now most people there don’t know what to do.  They are so addicted to an existence based on going in circles, they have little or no experience with the concept of getting out of going in circles.

Don’t get me wrong.  There are times when most of us  find ourselves in a rut.

Hey, we fight the good fight and many times, we lose the battle…but not the war.  And, we need to take some time to lick our wounds. It’s part of healing.

It reminds me of an old Dustin Hoffman movie, called “Little Big Man.”  Ever see it?  Great flick.

There was a character actor.  It was Martin Balsam.  The character he played was always “fighting the good fight.”  The first time you see him he’s talking about what happened in some battle and you notice that he’s wearing a patch over one eye.

The next time on camera, he’s now missing an arm. And every following scene with Balsam, he’s missing either another appendage.

But, he’s still ready for the next campaign.

It was hilarious because it’s so true.

You take a break, but you battle on.

There’s very little virtue in a life that’s encased in security.  It’s not life.  It’s wasting away.  It’s decay

Let me explain.  Life is filled with temptation.  Leading an existence so filled with certainty is like a book that’s never to be read.

One of the tenets of creativity is uncertainty.  It’s part of the birthing experience of creativity.

It’s reworking, re-writing, re-starting, starting over, reigniting and improving in order to make things just right.

Ever go to any of those retirement villages.  There’s a big one down in Florida.  At these centers, there’s 2 main groups of people that inhabit these over the age of 55 communities.

The first group loves the life of leisure.  They get up in the morning, play golf, play tennis and swim all day. They have lunch with the same crowd, head on home for a nap, have a cocktail before dinner, play cards, watch tv and then on to “beddy bye.”

The other group still lives life.  They may be retired, but they’re still working.  They may have cut back.  But, they volunteer, they work part-time, they get involved where they live, as well as outside the community.

They have good days and bad days.  But, they are vital.

And, surprise, surprise. There is very little inter-action between these two groups.

Why?  Because they have so little in common.  The First group is going in circles.  The second group, in some ways, are like kids with crayons who have a tendency of drawing outside the lines.

It’s like going out on a run.  It’s more important to  keep on going and worry later on about how to get on home.

It really is all a matter of what’s more important to each and every one of us.

At times, it might even seem ridiculous, but my choice is getting out of going in circles.